This book provides the knowledge to care about the myths which are the insecticides that poison our love for men. P.8
Women can’t hear what men don’t say partly because of the way men say it, and partly because it’s difficult to listen to anything we don’t really want to hear. P.3
This book has to be about process---the process of communicating difficult feelings; the process of listening to difficult feelings. P.3
Big feminism, like big labor started by correcting an imbalance; both became so preoccupied with getting protection that soon everyone near them needed protection from them. P.2
As women spoke up and men didn’t, men and masculinity were becoming demonized. P.2
Though men, like women, received love by solving problems for others, the process for men involved a more complete repression of their own problems. P.6
For women, expressing weakness and fear attracted a savior; for men, expressing weakness and fear attracted contempt. P.6
Ultimately this book is about both sexes speaking and both sexes listening in a radically different way. P.6
I put more emphasis on hearing personal criticism well because therapists spend less time helping people handle badly given criticism. P.9
What we need to ask to determine whether we are being told the full truth in the news. P.11
Part III explores women’s anger in the form of man-bashing and “The Lace Curtain.” P.11
By making the environment safe for men to speak up, men will get in touch with their feelings, do their homework, learn to speak with love, and speak. P.12